Friday 13 April 2012

Grand-daddies little girl . . . Part 1 . . .

Grand-daddies little girl . . . Part 1 . . .

One of my co-workers very suddenly lost her grandfather, and it has made me think a lot about my wonderful ones . . .

Most of us reminisce about out Grandmothers - baking, sewing, their button tins ;) . . . and tend to overlook the Grandfathers . . . However, I can safely say that I totally adored both of mine, and on looking back, can remember the most unusual things about them . . . So before time moves on, and I forget all of these wonderful nuances, I'm going to write these two blogs for them . . .

Grandad George

Born in 1919, Grandad George was born within the sound of Bow Bells, and until the age of fourteen slept in a chair next to a fireplace . . . the fact that he never had a bed of his own shocked me when I heard this age eighteen.

Trained as a cobbler, he entered the Second World War as a machine gunner, and saw action on the D-Day beaches, something that he never once spoke about to me. He obviously enjoyed himself though, with photos of him and his comrades larking about during their time at camp.

A quiet gentle giant he was always such a gentleman . . .

His hands and nails were always immaculate, shoes polished, clothes spic and span . . . always close shaved, and smelling of Lifebuoy Soap and cigarettes, although his brand of choice eludes me . . .

He and his wife moved from London to give their young family a better start after the war - the new town Hemel Hempstead became their home, and he worked hard at the Vauxhall car plant in Luton. Soon enough, they had their own home, with very neat flower beds, roses, a lawn, a veg patch and a garden shed - the place where my memories of him are compounded by the wonderful smell of creosote and earth . .. The box that he made to insulate the outside tap so it wouldn't freeze, the oil tray that he kept under the car engine so it didn't damage the garage floor, and the wonderful deck chairs that until recently we still used . . .

The car trips we used to take to Weston, and the wind break, tea, rock and the vest, rolled up trousers and knotted hankie ensemble he would wear when he dug at the beach with us.

He became the sole carer for my grandmother when she became ill, and refused to put her into a home even when it was detrimental to his own health . . .

When he finally succumbed, he came into his own, but maybe looking back on it, it was due to his loneliness . . . He became a regular at bingo, winning a substantial amount of money, and going away on coach tours around the UK - once winning a fancy dress competition as dressing up as Carmen Miranda, complete with fruit!

When he died, he was the first of my grandparents to go . . .

He had two weeks previously been to see my Grandmother in the home for the first time, and then had been down to see my mum in her new home . . . it was as if he knew his time to move on had come, and he wanted to check that everyone was safe and settled . . .

I will never forget this wonderful gentle man, and the way he bought stability into my life . . .

Much love, Ax



5 comments:

  1. You have made me cry, in a good way! It's the little things, I'll share a few too, the way he used to let me help him fill his pipe with tobacco and the little tins he kept it in. He always made me a boat out of the foil containers when he had an egg custard. He rode his bike every day and kept his trousers out of the way with bicycle clips. And his little tobacco tins held all sorts of excitement, forget Grandma's button tin...Grandad had been a watch maker and his tins were full of tiny cogs and hands and miniscule screws. At 11 o'clock and not a minute before or after - everything stopped for tea everyday without fail

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  2. Oh Alexsis, what a beautiful account of a wonderful man, gosh I cried at the ending! What wonderful memories you have and how lovely to keep them alive. Lots of love and thanks for sharing him with us, Jacqueline xxx

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  3. What a wonderful and beautiful read. You have such sweet memories of him. xxx

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  4. Bitter sweet memories but keep them close & keep sharing them - it's how we teach our youngsters to carry on the torch of love & family...
    Jo (aka Crafty Gifts & Cards on facebook)
    xx

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  5. Wow, what a beautiful post, I'm so touched by all those wonderful memories... so glad i read it, as it reminded me of all my own treasured memories of my grandparents that I love and miss so much. Reading Charlotte's reply, I realised I had totally forgotten about my Granddad's elasticated metal bands that held his shirt sleeves up, as soon as I read it, I instantly saw them in my mind's eye - a lovely memory, my brother and I used to be intrigued with them! When we tried them on, I remember it catching the little hairs on our arms! I had great memories of both my Grandparents, fishing with Granddad, them both taking me and my brother to the local park with the best slide in the world - made up of loads of bright orange rollers! Loved it! Button boxes were also a massive highlight!! And those milk biscuits with the picture of the cow on before bedtime with a glass of milk when we used to stay over....
    Gosh, too many to write down, but thank you for the post and to everyone for sharing your memories too - so special to keep remembering all the wonderful memories they gave us, Grandparents are just magical :) xxx

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